The Brokenhearted Territory

At some point in our lives we will all experience heart break or loss. Though our losses are different, we are able to recognize them in each other. We may speak from different landscapes of the shattered heart, but we can still aim to bless each other from that shared territory. The brokenhearted territory. How…

Our Love Story

I wrote a book for our daughter Aspen, when she was first born. I even got it printed for her. I wanted a little story for her to read one day about how her mommy and daddy met, fell in love, and started a little family. Enjoy. Mommy and Daddy fell in Love with the…

Perfectly in Process

As I write this scentence, Eden would be turning 9 months old. It is the same week my niece turns one year old. It makes me sad to think that she will never know her intended best friend and cousin. Last week I saw a little girl, roughly 9 months old at church. I had…

Two World’s

New Years hit me hard. I have been in a fog for a few weeks, unable to make sense of the mess of emotions that go on in my mind. My family got me into a writing class for those dealing with grief. All of my creative juices have been channeled into that course since…

Timshel

Heavenly greeting Only five months ago, on the night of July 28th I went to bed a proud mother of 3. The next morning, I woke up to an impossible reality. I suddenly had more babies in heaven than I do on Earth. Before Aspen was born, I had two miscarriages. It always annoyed me…

So this is Christmas

Yes, the blurry photo is intentional. Everyone warned me that Christmas is difficult. Those who have lost a parent or spouse, experiencing their first ever Christmas without their loved one – always seemed like more of the typical holiday grief. I never had a Christmas with Eden. I never had a lot of things with…

Honour

Putting on a brave face, isn’t brave. It’s acting. I am slowly noticing that it takes an extraordinary amount of vulnerability and bravery for me to show my real emotions. I am used to hearing the word brave referenced when someone denies their feelings, “staying strong.” “Holding it together”. I couldn’t disagree more. That, for…

Eden’s Memorial

On August 3rd, 2018 we had Eden Alexandria’s Celebration of Life. It was held at Northview Community Church in Abbotsford BC, Canada. It only seemed suitable that I would deliver the eulogy. She was only 3 months after all. No one knew her better. When I walked into that sanctuary that day, everything became real,…

Grief 101

Again I feel as if I cannot take credit for any concepts in this post. (Or the once youthful cliff jumping body I used to have) Although I have had many of these thoughts prior to reading about them, the validation behind them is from the research and experience of another. I was told about…

Hope

It hurts to remember, It hurts to forget. I was holding Cambria on my chest like a baby after her nap, earlier this week. At 2 years old these moments are rare. It felt so good to have her skin on mine. It made me think of how foreign that feeling has become in the…